I believe that people are fundamentally good and nice but I’m also a realist who knows you’re always going to encounter the occasional *sshole.
What I mean is that you can hear a thousand wonderful comments but when someone says something hurtful, it tends to stay.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
I recently overheard a crappy comment about me–one that clearly wasn’t meant for my ears. It hurt because 99% of my experience in learning how to speed skate people has been amazing–beyond amazing. There is my Masters coach E. who has the patience of Job and answers Every. Single. One. of the emails I send her asking a kajillion questions. There are the other skaters in my class who help and encourage me. There are my friends who support me. And then there are the strangers. I get a lot of emails now from people I don’t know who tell me how I inspired them to try something new. It kinda rocks my world.
And of course, there’s hockey skating husband who, when I come home and cry because I overheard a mean comment, instead of feeding into my tears tells me I need to buck up, put on my big girl panties and start practicing more so I really do learn how to speed skate. And then he makes me laugh. Because that’s the kind of stuff that makes a good marriage.
The comment turned out to be a good thing. It gave me a bit of perspective and I needed to get me some. I’m not training for the Olympics here, I’m a mom, trying to learn something new and reminding other moms that you need to make time for yourself. IT’S SO IMPORTANT. If occasionally someone sees that in a negative light? Meh.
Because, really, most people are fundamentally good and nice.
You can’t let the detractors get you down.