If you’re someone who doesn’t have kids I’m about to share with you one of the biggest lessons in parenting.
RAISING CHILDREN IS VERY FRUSTRATING.
Meet Hockey Skating Son.
Hockey Skating Son takes after his dad and has a natural athletic ability. He’s also pretty fearless which means I get to watch him do stuff like skateboard down ramps and ride bikes with no hands. He picks up on things quite easily and is quite physical for someone his age. Case in point: Last night I was working out in the basement and he came down to keep me company. Once I was done sprints on the treadmill he told me he was going to run 3km at 5.0 without stopping.
And he did.
Just like that.
Last week when he was at his grandparent’s house he and Speed Skating Son hooked up a pulley system in the garage. They attached a chair, Hockey Skating Son sat down in it and using only his hands pulled himself up the ceiling.
The frustration part comes in because he doesn’t like to try new things unless he’s pretty sure he’ll be good at it. Every sport he’s ever tried, we’ve signed him up for even though he was adamant he didn’t want to do it. But we signed him up anyway because we knew he’d like it. Baseball, soccer, hockey–he loves all three now but would never have known if we hadn’t been “those” parents.
But even this past year he’s had a love/hate relationship with hockey because it was his first year and he thought all of the kids were better than him. Which, mostly they were, only because they had already been playing for three or four years.
In the past I had suggested he try speed skating because it would go well with his personality and the types of things he loves (Speed! Danger!) but I’ve pretty much given up on that. Recently I suggested that this school year he try out for the track and field. Nope, not going to happen. Even with his much beloved skateboarding it’s a struggle. If there are other kids at the skateboard park he won’t go.
Not wanting to try if he’s not good is a ripple that is not limited to only sporting endeavours, it affects every area of is life.
I’m not a pushy mom and want my kids to be happy but this whole not trying thing? I can’t even describe the inner frustration I have when I see so much natural ability and a love for athletics only to have it blocked because he won’t try if he’s not good.
That’s it. No lessons here today. Today I’m the one who needs help.